From the correct understanding and etiquette of honouring our parents and being dutiful to them is that we exert ourselves in supplication to Allaah, that he helps us and blesses us to honour them, and be dutiful to them.
Tag: parents
Regularly visiting my parents
With my husband’s consent, I want to visit my parents, brothers and sisters who all live in Yemen, so if I find a mahram then this simplifies matters. So am I considered to be squandering my husband’s money by taking these visits every year?
My wife seeks separate accommodation
I am experiencing a problem with my wife. Two years after my father passed away, I got married, and [after his death], it was I who had assumed the responsibility for my mother and infant brothers – and after Allaah (‘Azza wa Jall) I have been the only provider for them.
Calling the mother by her name
Is calling the mother by her name considered as [being] disobedient to her? And [what] if I have become used to this, and she is fine with that – so would this be permissible?
Do not give more than a third of your wealth in charity
When I want to give in charity to my relatives and [those of] my friends who are in need – my mother opposes me in this, claiming that I am squandering my money without benefit, and that I should save my money for what will benefit me later.
My father takes all my salary
I am a young man who works, and I give my father my salary – even though my father always [verbally] abuses me, and accuses me of falling short in honouring him by hiding some of my salary and [instead] give it to my wife.
My father discourages me from going to the masjid
I am a youth of 16 years of age, and my father forbids me from praying [the congregational prayer] in the masjid, as well as the jumu’ah prayer.
Unable to regularly visit my father’s grave
My father died a long while ago, and he is [buried in a graveyard] far away from [where I live], and [as such] I am unable to visit him except after two or three years. So is it possible for me to honour him with anything, since I [live so] far away from him?
Supplicating for the deceased
[Please] guide me to good deeds which I can do so [their reward] reach my father, and may you be rewarded.
Just one extra righteous deed
Other than [the act of] supplicating, which [other righteous] deeds can I do to honour my father after his death?