Reference: https://twitter.com/dawah16/status/961612798215278592
https://twitter.com/dawah16/status/961612798215278592
al-‘aqd al-fareed – v3, p184
Ibn ‘Abbaas (radhi-yAllaahu ‘anhu) said:
In the absence of your brother, make mention of him with what you [yourself] would like to be remembered with, and do not make mention of him with what you [yourself] would not like to be mentioned of yourself.